F r o l i c . n u

Sunday, March 22, 2009

My worst nightmare is to be one of those couples who sits in a restaurant and each has a book to read, or a crossword puzzle, and doesn't talk one bit except to say "So what do you think is the answer for 5 Across?" Even when I'm 50 and 60 and 70 and 80, I want to have things to say to each other even if it's, "So honey, how was your lawn bowling game today?" Yes.

Last week I saw an independent theater production about the QLC - the Quarter Life Crisis, and I fully believe that it exists and is largely centered on The Future. I also fully believe that I'm in my own QLC though I've recently decided to stop thinking about The Future, and stop planning for it, and just be happy in the now. I'm making choices that will make me happy now, and everything else will just fall into place. I used to think by 25 that my life would be together: I'd be in a committed relationship, I'd own my own house (not a chance!), I'd have my career - I'd basically have everything including a white picket fence. Now, I've realised that I can't put a time frame on when I want to buy a house, or get married, or have my career. These things will happen all in their own time. Right now, I just want to be happy and do what I want to do.

Labels: life

1 Comments:

At March 23, 2009 2:51 AM , Jenn said...: Dude, who owns a house at 25?? Do you know ANY 25-year-olds with houses??? (If so, and they are single, send me their names...)

With regards to old couples.... I agree it's sad if they really have nothing to say to each other... but I love seeing old couples sitting together at a cafe, reading or doing the crossword, because to me it says that they're so beautifully, perfectly comfortable with each other that they don't need to justify themselves with conversation; the mere presence of the other is enough. If they think of something to say, they will. Otherwise they are happy to be with each other, peaceful, quiet, enjoying the cafe and the morning with their chosen partner.